The Holidays Are For The Innocent

"Children intuit wisdom,  they just can't express it." EB White Do you believe this?   That children intuit wisdom?     Innocence is our original state of being. We all begin as an innocent. Along with this innocence is the wisdom of trust and love and all things good. We can hear that wisdom in baby's cooing, in children's  questions, in their empathy for others, and their deep contentment when loved.   How We Begin I look at him & see the forgotten pa...
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Week of Gratitude and Grace

The history of grace and gratitude in my life has been a blessing, but it took some thought. Being in a State of Grace For those of us who grew up Catholic,  the "state of grace" was a transactional model. Grace was a spiritual commodity.  It was like a bank account— the more grace you accumulated through prayer, the sacraments, good deeds, avoiding sin, the fuller your bank account and the less purgatory you had to endure.   "Holy" people were filled with grace, sinners, not so muc...
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15 Things Veterans Want You To Know

15 Things Veterans Want You To Know Purpose The purpose of  today's information is to share what Veterans need us to know about them so that we care providers can honor their service with credibility,  and authentically create a space for them to feel safe and comfort in our care.   Honoring Our Veterans  This past week I took a friend to a dinner put on by the San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care. It being Veterans Day week, I thought my friend would enjoy hearing the feature...
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Lessons From Geese

Do You Know About The "Lessons From Geese"?  "Lessons From Geese" was transcribed from a speech given by Angeles Arrien at the 1991 Organizational Development Network and is based on the work of Milton Olson. Fact 1:      As each goose flaps its wings it creates an "Uplift" from the birds that follow.  By flying in a "V" formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater distance than if each bird flew alone. The natural wonder of healthy relationships, families, teams, work cultures. Fact 2:...
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DIY Dying

This past weekend, I volunteered to participate with the San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care in the San Diego Healthy Aging Expo and in the San Diego Beautiful Dying Expo   Conversations About Dying  It was exciting to see that the subject of dying is becoming more and more mainstreamed. Seeing the growing opportunities evident in the variety of  settings for these conversations to happen was powerful. Here are Several Websites to Explore Prepare For Your Care we...
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What Happens When We Go Back to Work … After an Inspiring Conference?

What happens once we leave a conference ... a great conference ... an inspirational conference... like the recent International Caritas Consortium Conference in SF this month?  What happens with those great thoughts of ... I'm going to do X, Y or Z ... when I get back to work!  This is what several young and inspired nurse leaders asked among themselves when standing in the lunch line   How are we going to hold on to these inspirations?   This is the $64,000. question ...  This is t...
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Words of Wisdom from 40 Years of Caring Science

I attended this celebratory event, honoring Jean Watson's 40 years of contributions to caring science.  Here are just a few words of wisdom I gathered from the speakers: Nursing is precisely what the world needs now - Jean Watson This is a time for solution seeking, not problem solving - Jean Watson What if you invest in your employees, and they leave?  More importantly, what if you don't invest in your employees and they stay? - Jim D'Alfonso from Kaiser Permanente Quantum ca...
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Are You Thinking About Retirement? 

Consider Un-retirement .... Things to consider when thinking about retirement First and foremost: Remember what keeps us healthy.   “Your brain needs exercise or it will atrophy.” 2 Suggestions: Never retire. Instead, make a plan to change your job, your career, your work … to keep your synapses snapping … to focus on what brings purpose, meaning, joy The history of retirement The invention of retirement came out of Germany in 1889. Retirement was meant to free up...
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A Birthday Blessing

Our first grandchild was born this past Saturday, Oct 5. Her name is Ruby Rose. These are my birth day blessings to her, taken from A Birthday Blessing. May you find, in your life’s journey, many pleasant places from which to watch and enjoy the pageant of existence — porches, window seats, nooks, river banks, bowers, balconies and perfectly placed windows.   Let there be frequent and fine conversations, … and quiet times with friends, when words are...
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What We Think & Talk About

My journey of self-discovery as a CNO led me to discovering a doable, visible way to think and talk about authentic caring in everyday work settings.  It saved my nurse leader soul and is what my book is about. Gandhi's statement here is about as real as it gets for me. What we think and talk about matters in our lives, everyday. What we talk about day in and day out signals to ourselves and to others what is important. It keeps us thinking and focusing on what matters to us. Y...
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