Which Are You?

Which are you? A new nurse leader, overwhelmed by job demands, and with no clear picture in how to personally and positively impact nurses and their authentic caring? A seasoned nurse leader struggling to engage with nurses around authentic caring in everyday work settings in spite of the never-ending staffing, budget and time constraints?  Or maybe ... A nurse leader wondering what nurses need, want or if they have time for deep, authentic connections with you, or patients for that m...
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Our New Nurse Leaders- How Do We Help Them?

How Do We Help Our New Nurse Leaders?  When I was a new nurse and then a new nurse leader, I was overwhelmed with the demands of the jobs.  Right away, I felt the reality shock of healthcare’s BIG competing demands as a clinical nurse and then as a new leader — charge nurse, supervisor, manager, etc. The challenge was, How to remain open and sensitive and compassionate when I was drowning everyday — especially given my level of emotional and organizational intelligence. What made this...
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Quick Rounding Tips & Meaningful Conversations

Quick ( Conscious-Self ) Rounding & Conversation Tips THESE TIPS AREN'T GOING TO BE QUICK IF YOU DON'T GET YOUR INTENTIONAL CONSCIOUS - SELF INTO GEAR ...  Start here Step #1     Take control of your mind/thoughts Acknowledge & set aside the pressures and burdens you carry:  never-enough staffing; constant changes in technologies, acuities, pharma, supplies, regulations; the impact of egos, conflicts, and emotional un-intelligence around you. Step #2     Think: "This is my t...
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A Story From The Aztec People of Mexico

In my signature talk with nurse leaders, I ask them to first set aside the pressures and burdens they carry of ... ... never-enough staffing; constant changes in technologies, acuities, pharma, supplies, regulations;  the egos, conflicts, and emotional un-intelligence. Instead I ask them to consider, Who Are We ?  Who are we as nurses and nurse leaders? What do we represent ... to ourselves? and to nurses? And then I ask them to consider, How can we make a difference everyday amid the...
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The Ancient Wisdom of Conversations

The Ancient Wisdom of Conversations will be my theme in 2020 laced with Florence Nightingale wisdom. In 2019, I wrote Getting Real About Caring: What I discovered about authentic caring as a nurse leader and one step forward.  In 2020, I'm having more conversations with nurse leaders and nurses about their authentic caring conversations. 2020 — being the Year of the Nurse,  prompts me to read, learn and write  about Florence Nightingale  (something I have always wanted to do). Being ...
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What Surprised You in 2019?

What surprised you in 2019? Yes, I have asked this question before.  And each time this question takes us beneath the surface of our daily lives. It's a question posed by Mark Nepo, author, poet, and philosopher.  Here is a response to this question he describes in his book,  Seven Thousand Ways to Listen. p,3 Two Breaths That Changed His Life  When asked what surprised Marco during this last year, his voice began to quiver. He’d witnessed two breaths that had changed his life. As ...
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Happy Winter Solstice – and Its Connections with Christmas

  What Does Christmas Have to Do With the Solstice? "The birth of Jesus Christ is celebrated on Dec. 25, or Christmas Day, all around the world. But there is no biblical evidence of Jesus’ birth falling on this date. Early Christians debated when it should be celebrated, and some theories suggest that because the Romans already celebrated a festival around the solstice, Christians chose the date to appease the pagans and Romans and co-opt the holiday for their religious needs. ...
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The Holidays Are For The Innocent

"Children intuit wisdom,  they just can't express it." EB White Do you believe this?   That children intuit wisdom?     Innocence is our original state of being. We all begin as an innocent. Along with this innocence is the wisdom of trust and love and all things good. We can hear that wisdom in baby's cooing, in children's  questions, in their empathy for others, and their deep contentment when loved.   How We Begin I look at him & see the forgotten pa...
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Week of Gratitude and Grace

The history of grace and gratitude in my life has been a blessing, but it took some thought. Being in a State of Grace For those of us who grew up Catholic,  the "state of grace" was a transactional model. Grace was a spiritual commodity.  It was like a bank account— the more grace you accumulated through prayer, the sacraments, good deeds, avoiding sin, the fuller your bank account and the less purgatory you had to endure.   "Holy" people were filled with grace, sinners, not so muc...
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15 Things Veterans Want You To Know

15 Things Veterans Want You To Know Purpose The purpose of  today's information is to share what Veterans need us to know about them so that we care providers can honor their service with credibility,  and authentically create a space for them to feel safe and comfort in our care.   Honoring Our Veterans  This past week I took a friend to a dinner put on by the San Diego Coalition for Compassionate Care. It being Veterans Day week, I thought my friend would enjoy hearing the feature...
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